Secure Your Oxygen Mask First: Life Lessons from 30,000 Feet
Every time I board a plane, that familiar safety briefing unfolds: “In the event of an emergency, secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others.”
The flight attendants, calm and composed, remind us that we can’t help others if we’re struggling for air ourselves. This piece of advice isn’t just about surviving turbulence in the skies – it’s a life lesson that’s helped me navigate my own storms and challenges on the ground. Recently, my good friend Melonie gently reminded me of this. We were talking about life, the daily juggle, and the struggle to keep everyone happy. With a knowing smile, she said, “Remember what they tell you on planes – secure your own mask first.” It stopped me in my tracks.
It’s funny how sometimes the simplest advice, especially from a caring friend, can strike the deepest chord. Like many people, I used to put everyone else first, always making sure others had what they needed before thinking of myself. Whether it was family, friends, or work, I’d pour every ounce of energy into making sure everyone was okay. But here’s the thing: running on empty meant I was never really giving the best version of myself. Eventually, there comes a point where exhaustion and emotional burnout set in, and you can’t keep going.
It now makes more sense during my healing journey I’ve been on, recovering from my recovery from breast cancer, that I learned just how vital this “oxygen mask first” mentality is. I realize now that taking time for my own health, peace, and happiness isn’t selfish – it’s essential. When I prioritize my own well-being, I’m better equipped to be there for those I love. It meant showing up more present, more engaged, and actually having the energy and clarity to make a positive impact.
Putting on my “oxygen mask” first in everyday life looks different depending on the day. Some days, it’s as simple as taking a quiet morning to myself, recharging with my favorite music, or connecting with nature. Other days, it means setting boundaries to protect my energy, saying “no” when I need to, and letting go of guilt for prioritizing my health and happiness.
By choosing to secure my own mask first, I’ve found strength I didn’t know I had. It’s empowered me to rebuild myself and live a life filled with joy and resilience. So, the next time you hear that phrase on a plane, remember: it’s more than just a rule for emergencies – it’s a reminder to value yourself. And sometimes, it’s a good friend who comes along to remind us that prioritizing our own well-being is the best gift we can give to ourselves and to those we love.