When It’s Time to Say Goodbye
The Worst
Break ups… are… the worst. The embarrassment at failing, the frustration at having “wasted” your time with someone, and the mourning of an important person now absent from your life are enough to dissuade even the worst couples from ending things when they should. And who can blame them? Saying goodbye is hard. Yet, learning when it is time to say goodbye and ending a relationship at the right time can save so much heartache down the road. No one wants to make that choice, but it is a valuable skill to learn. The sooner you learn when it is time to say goodbye to a relationship, a partner, even a marriage, the sooner you can get back to focusing on sculpting your life to be what you want it to be.
Ask Yourself
These are some questions to ask yourself if you are wondering if it is time to say goodbye:
“Do I remember the last time we were truly happy together?”
If you do not, or if you are surprised at how long ago that was, it is time to say goodbye.
“Do we still want the same thing?”
If you do not or are too afraid to have that conversation with them, it is time to say goodbye.
“Does my partner surprise me in a good way?”
If they do not, and especially if lately they have only been surprising you in bad ways, it is time to say goodbye.
“What would I be able to do without them in my life that I’m not able to do now?”
If you are more excited for the things you can do without them then you are the things you can do with them, it is time to say goodbye.
Sooner the Better
These questions are just the starting point. Keep asking yourself questions like this and eventually you will reach a decision. It is doubtful your answers will conclusively tell you what to do the first time you go through this little quiz, but they should tell you something. And remember, we all agree BREAK UPS ARE THE WORST! But the sooner you end things with your current love, the sooner you can get back to where you want to be with the next.
