Dealing with Fear and Anxiety
2020 Stress
2020 has been full of terrifying events which has caused anxiety levels to skyrocket among everyone I know. At a time in our lives when we are all leaning on our support systems perhaps more than we anticipated, the struggle to manage our stress levels and fears is real. Some people deal with this challenge head on by raising discussions about mental health with those in their COVID pod. Other people hide how anxious they feel by occupying their time with chores or errands. My family will tell you that at varying points this year I have tried both approaches. The most interesting thing is that a combination of both of these approaches has made me feel the best.
Ways to cope
Talking with others has been how I have dealt with my fear and anxiety. Even though it can be awkward and difficult, talking about your mental health with those you love can be extremely relieving. I have had more honest conversations with the people I care about in my life this year than I have in my entire life (listen to a few of them on my podcast!). Vocalizing my experiences with fear and anxiety have made me feel less anxious and afraid. It has made me realize I am not struggling through this uncertain time alone.
On the contrary, some days I am not brave or energized enough to have those deep meaningful conversations about my anxious state of mind. What can I say, I am human! On those days, I read more, take long walks with my pups, watch tv with my kids, try a new recipe, clean the house, grocery shop… think of a chore or an errand that would distract you from feeling afraid and I have done it. Household tasks and other distractions have been my indirect way of dealing with my 2020 fear and anxiety.
In Moderation
Distractions do not make those feelings go away for good, but they give me a break from that panging feeling in my head caused by too much stress. We all need a break sometimes, right?
So, whether you are moving the needle on mental health awareness by talking about your fears and anxieties with loved ones or are giving yourself a break by knitting, practicing yoga, or holiday decorating, keep at it. I am no doctor but have heard everything in moderation good. If I can find a balance between these two approaches that help me the most, maybe you can too. Let me know how you are managing by posting on Dinner At 45 Facebook page.
